Yes LEASHES meant for and used on kids...
if you type "leashes" on google the auto search bubble has at first "leashes" and the second is "leashes for kids"
this is abuse, and qualifies for us to act with the protective use of force, plz spread the word of this sick...
and if you see a kid on a leashes "that does not want to be on one" please do something, those that don't stand against it are supporting it.
i realized i had a flux of emotion when i first noticed this, in which i was angry... i wanted to judge the perpetrator of this leashing...
i took the time to hear inside myself and feel out my emotions and see ways others might rationalize it
what happen to holding there hand... i can rationalize and understand the ways of thinking about it where it can appear to make sense yet i still see it as backwards(maybe its not on purpose and with good intentions but there has got to be a better way)... and that was the root of my conflict is, i wanted to be angry with them yet, i was not seeing it from there perspective, i still think it is wrong yet should not necessarily be angry with them if the intention is good then its about empowering or sharing a better way that aids in a child's development and control(or safe behavior) yet lets them be free...
so i don't wish them anger or violence and would try my best to bring a solution threw awareness but when needed to save another from harm/continued harm i stand by using the protective use of force...
lets do what we can to help these kids
Hey unite, I agree with you that this is not a good practice, nothing's absolute there may be a time situation, or something the like but it should not be a replacement for proper care and attention. I don't believe tying people up does much good for their mental health and I think it applies to any age.....I put my dog on a leash and he gets it, it works for a dog, I once tried to walk a sheep home from the local shopping center, the sheep didn't get it at all...lol..........
I do not leash my children. I do know others that do, and they have good reason to do so. The number 1 reason is the drop and pull method kids use to then run off... often without understanding the dangers of doing so...
The kid did not want to go with the parent, and put the brakes on. The parent was obviously queing in line trying to speak to someone about something that was important. The child was trying to wander off. The parent was ensuring the child did not wander off.
This is certainly less distressing than me trying to hold on to my twins while they are howling and dropping and pulling out my hands and running off... so I have to go get them, losing my place in the que, and at times my patience. Sometimes resulting in me having to put them over my shoulders like sacks of potatoes so I can sign time sensitive paperwork that is important to living life.
Soooo... I would say this kid is far from abused. This kid is just trying to wander off and just happens to be on a leash instead of being held by the hand or wrist.
Fairy
while i understand that perspective and understand its reasoning, i see it differently, it seems that kid is dieing of boredom literately needing to run away to get some semblance of freedom and exploration. As far as safety goes educate your kids rather then leashing them resonates way more to me, my parents explained it well enough to me that in public crowded places that i can easily get lost and need to stay near by, they took the time to explain and encourage self control and recognition of a situation, and about the forces that exist that may wish me harm... and ask them if i could go explore. I see it as abuse, i see how others may not...
oddly i have a quote highlighted in my head "thous who sacrifice freedom for security deserve neither" which i updated to "deserve neither = get neither" once again the child has no say in the decision, he is thrust-ed into captivity, and the abuser justifies it often is some logical way which is nothing abnormal about the abuser "rapist--> she was asking for it"
i don't think many who are doing this mean harm they might think they have no other option, i heard the main justification as "its the only way to control there own unruly kids" which i see as a copout
(Mother of two, Lauren Jimeson, of Costa Mesa, Calif., was leashed as a child herself, and says there is never a good excuse to restrain your child.
“I remember being embarrassed. And I promised myself I would never ever do that to my children. There’s always a way to help restrain them without putting a leash on them,” Jimeson said.
Jimeson, 28, believes giving her 2-year-old daughter more freedom actually makes her a more attentive parent than those who use leashes.
“Parents can use it as a false security, thinking that okay, my kid is attached to me. Maybe I don’t have to watch them as much as I do,” she said.)
peace and love
Wow, so you are analogizing this parent to a rapist. Wowza. Now that is a bit of a leap imho.
I bless you with Love. Take care.
Fairy
yes as far as in justifying abuse, which is why i aimed it at justifying abuse im not saying the acts are similar beyond that
ill use more a similar analogizing how about bondage(against ones will) and slavery now there are many comparisons to make beyond that one
just pointing out the way i see it, and you pointed out yours
i mainly share to see if sharing with one another and seeing thing from other perspectives can empower us... yet i often feel i just get cut off with out that journey being completed..
i thank you for sharing your perspective in which i tried to see it your way, i believe it helps me understand another way of seeing it, for i can see the logic in that thought pattern, and even good intentions yet it has not swayed me from noticing this as abuse.
logic can have horrendous conclusions when drawn from a certain perspective and/or with use of assumed assumptions... without questioning (a simple example) "i want the earth to be healthy... over all the human impact on earth is not healthy... well then the earth is better without humans... eliminate all humans..." can you point out where it is being illogical ? other then in it assumed assumptions? i cant. I think much the same is happening where there are assumed assumptions and the abusive consequence is bonding of child and it all seems logical
i will try and see it from your way ,but what do you see when you try seeing it from mine??? is it possible that perspective might be important??.. i don't think it should be overlooked lightly for this is bondage of children "leashing kids"
much love
Unity is an expression of neutrality.
Hmmmm... perhaps you do not have direct experience being a primary caretaker of children... not compliant quiet children, but high spirited impulsive new to Earth children. I do not know this of course. I do have direct experience being a primary caretaker of children-- lots of children that I have worked with most of my life. I have guided parents and children in their healing. I also have direct experience working with my own children.
I truly wish you well.
Leashing children is similar to the topic of breast feeding in public. For some, the thought makes them want to retch. How could they do that, it is disgusting to feed a child from the breast in public, further breast milk is just disgusting. That is a point of view some people follow.
That is their point of view. It is called a hot button topic, as those whose beliefs are so held important that the consideration that breast feeding in public is a completely natural act, is not available to them.
And yet, is it not their right to choose to not feed their child by breast in public? Is it not their choice? Some would posture that this was abuse. How dare they not feed their child by breast in public! Breast is best! How abusive of them to deny their child sustence!
And yet, there are many many people all over the world that would not see it in that way... they would opt to stay home and never go out during feeding times. They would opt to feed their child with formula.
Choices are made by people in response to their lives and belief systems.
I stated clearly that I do not leash my children, and would not do so. However, it is not my right to demand that someone who chooses to do so, and causes no phsycical harm to the child, that is their right to choose. It is not my right to make that choice for them as they are making a choice that is made in response to their life experiences.
I bless you with Love.
Fairy
I remember the first time I saw children on a leash. It was two twin boys tugging forward dragging the parent behind them; the boys reminded me of bulldogs pulling on a leash. I have a gut aversion to this practice.
However, I think that possibly in RARE cases, it might be warranted. If the child has extremely abnormal behaviors like uncontrollable urges to run off in a store or run into traffic, which may threaten his life, then perhaps leashing is preferable to losing a child. However, the practice of leashing is ripe for abuse. Most times, normal children can be taught and reasoned with without resorting to such tactics.
I'd like to know what the mother in the video said to the child. I'd like to know what the little girl is thinking. It looks to me like the girl's spirit has been broken and she is making her last attempts at demonstrating her desires. But we don't know all the facts.
I once read about parents who were coping with an autistic child who would scream all the time; everyone within earshot thought the parents were abusing him. I also know a single mom with 3 toddlers who would tie them to the clothesline so they wouldn't run in the street while she was hanging clothes. At first glance in both scenarios, it might seem like the children were being abused when it was not the case.
Still, I can't help wondering if there is any psychological damage to children who are leashed. I'd like to know Lightwin's comments on this subject.